SAHM 1 Year Anniversary

Preface – I started this post two month ago <hanging head in shame>

At the start of this year I told myself I would write more and be more involved in my blog. Hmmmm, we’re four (now six) months into the new year and I’ve written two posts. Not off to the best start. I’ve thought a lot about what the purpose of my blog is and what I want to write about. At this point I don’t have a profound purpose except to share life’s journeys. I have a feeling that as time progresses the purpose will unfold.

I have a 5-year journal for {L} called “One Line a Day” and have written something in it everyday since she was born. When I was writing in it the other day (back in April), I read the previous years entry which happened to be the day I resigned from my position at WCDA. The month leading up to that decision was the most difficult month for Nick & I. There were a lot of serious conversations about money, future plans, and what each other wants out of the other person. Here we are one year later and we’ve grown so much as a family and as a couple.  I wouldn’t say we’ve sacrificed anything to be in this position but that probably isn’t entirely true.  We keep a wish list going that has big purchases on it i.e. new lighting, a rower, kitchen tile, multi-day adults only trip. While these items most likely won’t get crossed off in the near future, who’s to say they would have if I was still working. Priorities shift and life is short. Enjoying what we have today is far more valuable than new recessed lighting. Holding {L} after she wakes from her nap or taking walks together in the morning are moments that she may not remember however I hope they have made an impression on the person she will become.

With all that said, there is the other side of the coin. The side of me that craves social interaction and adult conversation. The kind of conversation that sparks the inner creative spirit. As Nick said the other day, these “needs” are woven into your DNA, it’s who you are. From the age of 15 I’ve worked. I started my career journey the year before I graduated college. I was active on community non-profit boards, in leadership programs and committees within the organizations I worked. So the idea at the time of being a stay-at-home mom wasn’t something I thought would happen. However, being on the cusp of the Millennial generation, I wanted flexibility and a work-life balance. And at the time that wasn’t possible.

Leading up to my decision I read a lot and talked to a lot of friends and in the end, we made the decision that worked for us as a family. There are a lot of articles out there from the perspective of the SAHM or the perspective of the working mom and for some reason those articles always come across as if they are shaming the opposing side.

Head Banging

There is no judging here because in the end, whether you are working at keeping your toddler from hitting her head on the ground (obviously we are in the throes of head banging), or you are working hard in a job you have true passion for, both are challenging and yet rewarding. And at the end of the day you are a Mom who loves her children and you are doing the best you can do in that moment.

Keep up the good fight, and let’s all raise a glass to Summer!

Stay tuned because I really do have another blog post on deck 😉

Tara

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